Narcissism vs. Empathy
Narcissism has to do with being in control of your own and others’ shared reality. Empathy means being willing to take part in another’s reality where they have primarily control. There is an aspect of followership in empathy that relates to the acceptance of another’s emotional reality. We will see how this relates to the male/female natural interaction and fantasy.
The narcissist does not ask for permission to do things or look to others to lead the interaction. The empathetic person defers to another and is in responsiveness mode in order to connect with another (rapport-seeking).
Narcissism has to do with the overriding focus being one’s own intentionally which takes primacy over other’s intentionalities. It relates to one’s reality being the strongest and most dominant over other realities. Narcissicms has to do with the bringing of one’s intentionality into the world in order to build a reality consistent with it. It has to do with acting upon.
Empathy has to do with allowing other’s intentionalities to take primacy over one’s own intentionality. That other more dominant realities draw one in. It has to do with followership into another’s reality and responding to it.
You will notice that narcissism is in alignment with the male gender archetype of masculinity, alpha. You will also notice that empathy is in alignment with the female gender archetype of femininity, beta. These are because narcissism is the nature of masculinity and empathy is the nature of femininity.
You will notice that the very things that are attractive in a male relate to him displaying narcissism; a strong reality, cocky/teasing personality, leadership, lustful. You will also notice that the very things that are attractive in a female relate to her displaying empathy; being impressed with his reality, loving & girly personality, followership, enthusiasm for pleasing the male.
The natural male/female dynamic is the male acting upon and the female responding to which can be observed in the model below.
The unnatural male/female dynamic is the female acting upon and the male responding to which can be observed in the model below.