Gendered Personality vs. Gender-Neutral Personality
Personality Types can be broken down along the lines of masculinity and femininity or narcissism and empathy. A masculine personality is more consistent with narcissism in a healthy way, namely being cocky and teasing. This confidence and assertiveness is extremely attractive to females. A feminine personality is more consistent with empathy, namely being sweet, sincere, and girly. This femininity is extremely attractive to men.
A gendered personality creates polarity by being rapport breaking in positive ways, inotherwords emotional tension that leads to attraction.